Threesome Finders

How to Find a Third as a Couple Looking For a Threesome?

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For many people a threesome is the ultimate sexual fantasy; the thrill of watching, being watched, and experiencing a new situation with your partner is thrilling. Of course, there are some dangers to watch out for, but there's no reason why a threesome shouldn't be a wonderful and fulfilling experience for you to undertake as a couple.

Things Every Couple Looking for Threesomes Should Consider

A couple looking for threesomes should, first and foremost, sit down and talk about their expectations and boundaries with regard to the situation. This may sound like a simple first step, but many people simply agree they want to try a three-way without discussing what that means for them.

Second, you must consider your health and safety; get tested for STD's together first (not that we're implying you have anything), and consider whether you want to ask any third person to do the same. You should also make sure you have condoms (and switch condoms between partners if you're in an FMF situation).

Finally, consider what kind of person you would like to be your third partner. You should also think of a phrase that anyone involved can use to bring 'proceedings' to a halt. You do need to find a third person before all of this becomes an issue!

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How Couples Can Find a Third for a Threesome

The old-fashioned way of finding someone, of course, is to go bar-hopping or ask someone that you both already know... but assuming you don't want the uncertainty of a club or the danger of making a friendship weird, you do have other options. You can try online spaces and make it clear that you're looking for a third member for a threesome, or check out local fetish and alternative relationship forums for potential partners.

Once you have met someone that you think fits the bill, approach them and break the ice. Tell them that you as a couple are looking to have a threesome and that you're both interested in their participation. At this point, it is best to all meet somewhere public to test the chemistry between you all. If you find that you are all in agreement and wish to take it to the next step, it's time for an honest chat for about what you all want from the scenario (and remember that the desires of the third party are just as important as yours!).

If all three of you agree on a certain set of boundaries and 'ok' the arrangements, you officially have a third member for your threesome!

Things to Avoid

While the aim here is to be positive, there is one side note to make! Safety should be at the forefront of your mind at all times; use protection, meet your third partner in public first, and agree on a safe word before you start. Furthermore, if you look for your third-person online be upfront and honest; luring in a third party by showing only one half of the couple (usually the woman) is known as unicorn hunting and it's not good etiquette!

So, above all, be safe, have fun, and take care of each other!

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