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How to Be a Nice Unicorn in a Threesome Relationship?

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There is so much more to polyamory than threesome dating, but for many people, this is their first experience of alternative dating arrangements. Bisexual women new to the scene and want to have a three-way with an experienced couple should consider acting as a unicorn!

What Is A Unicorn?

We're not talking about the mythical horned horse, by the way, we're talking about a bi-sexual third partner who joins an existing relationship for sexual or romantic purposes. This dynamic can be purely sexual, or more involved, but it always starts with an existing couple!

How to Be a Nice Unicorn in a Polyamorous Arrangement

When you act as the third person in an arrangement like this you have a very set place, and so you have to discuss your boundaries as a group before you begin. Once those boundaries are set you should respect and adhere to them unless you all sit down together and agree on a new situation.

Here are some basic tips keep you on the right side of this threesome dating dynamic;

1) Stick to the boundaries you set together! If your couple only wants to meet as a threesome, meet as a threesome. If you're "play" is meant to be exclusively a threesome situation, then don't seek one-on-one contact without discussing it with the couple.

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2) Never facilitate secret-keeping! Meeting one half of your couple to talk about feelings or have a one on one 'date' is a steep and slippery slope into bad territory. Remember, when the blowback hits it is very likely you'll be seen as the bad guy!

3) Be open and honest with them! If your feelings on the arrangement and boundaries you have changed, discuss this with your couple to see if you can make changes. Likewise, if a situation makes you uncomfortable speak up!

4) Don't give in to jealousy. While many arrangements are non-romantic, unicorn women are only human; you may well feel jealous when your couple goes out alone or dates other outside parties. When this happens, take the time to think about your feelings; ask if it's really jealousy, or if it's something else. If needed, chat to your couple to work out the problem.

Looking After Yourself As A Unicorn

Some couples who are looking for unicorn women are incredibly well-adjusted and healthy, while others are... not. As a single woman coming into an existing dynamic, you need to make sure that the relationship you are getting involved with is not toxic.

Things to look out for;

1) Pressure or coercion. Just as you should not be pressuring or coercing your couple into doing things they don't want to, your couple should not pressure or push you into doing something you don't want to. If they don't respect your boundaries, you need to re-evaluate your involvement.

2) Manipulation and jealousy. If a member of your couple is using you to goad a reaction out of their partner, you need to step back and reconsider your place in the dynamic.

3) "Unicorn hunter" couples. This is a term for couples, usually heterosexual, who constantly seek unicorn women to fulfil their own sexual fantasies with little regard for their third partner.

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